Hi Guys :)

I am a new friend here

I am from Eritrea, somewhere you don't know maybe :D

I am living in Texas. USA.

I like you guys so much.

Actually the most thing I like about you is your girls :eek2:

I am in love with a girl, I can't stop thinking about her, but she said to me no :bash:

I need your advice guys, come on!

What would a korean guy in my place do?

When I see your responds I will give you more details

Sorry if I post this in the wrong place.

Love Korea :pepper:

Hi Guys :)

I am a new friend here

I am from Eritrea, somewhere you don't know maybe :D

I am living in Texas. USA.

I like you guys so much.

Actually the most thing I like about you is your girls :eek2:

I am in love with a girl, I can't stop thinking about her, but she said to me no :bash:

I need your advice guys, come on!

What would a korean guy in my place do?

When I see your responds I will give you more details

Sorry if I post this in the wrong place.

Love Korea :pepper:

wow what a innocent and pure boy --; i can't believe it you are just came from romantic movies right?

We have a saying in Korea - "A girl can't resist a hundred attempts" ;)

This is just a generalization. You should adapt your strategies according to the situations.

Feed her more Soju

ejd03, Thanks but I am real and I am just 18. She is 9 years older than me :D

cydevil, wow, really! you mean if I do more 99 it will work? I am sure she will call 911 before that happens :(

ejd03, Thanks but I am real and I am just 18. She is 9 years older than me :D

cydevil, wow, really! you mean if I do more 99 it will work? I am sure she will call 911 before that happens :(
she's 9 years older than you??!! wow, that's courageous...:D
are you sure she's still single??

when she refused me she said that she is not interested in me. She didn't say anything about a boy friend. I know she is not married.

No can mean yes, or can mean to insist a bit more. People don't always mean what they say. Ask again! Here's an idea: Tell her you'll cook her a good bibimbap at your place. Oh, and make sure you have a bottle or two of samsachun in the fridge: girls love it!

wait, what is bibimbap, and what is samsachun?

I hope it is not alcohol, because I don't drink :D

Feed her more Soju
hahaha :D

Well, I'm not Korean so I'll keep silent. But I'll watch this thread carefully.

there is no tree that doesnt fall after you knock it with an axe 10 times

Did you like just tell her withought getting to know her better? You might have scared her off.

You should let her see your personality first, be with her longer, bond with her. Saying that you love her does not mean anything unless there is substance.:)

before I go on...

How long have you known her?

*I'm not Korean, but I don't expect Korean Girls to be an entire breed altogether.:D

I've known her for one semester, like since february. Not too long :(

just get to know her. dont rush, have patience, think 3 or 4 times before you say anything.

Feed her more Soju

lol hahahaha
Yeah i agree get her drunk~~~!~!~!~!
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

that`s so funny...

haha some of you caught on, that's bad!! :D

btw, what is Samsachun? 삼사천?

The problem is probably your age. K girls dont really like younger guys. Ive been told that the perfect relationship is when the man is 4 years older. If you are younger you are just a dongseng, a younger brother. K girls go for oppas, older brothers.

Its 삼사춘 mookicece. You know the CF with Lee Hyo Lee saying~삼사~~~쭌~~~WOW so sexy.

@Saifz

Buy her supper, good place would be maybe in Korean restaurant? You can ask her naturally what this food is called and whats in it and stuff and get slowly get close to her. After the supper rent a Korean romance movie and watch it together. Korean girls LOVE foreign man who is interested in her culture. After watching a movie just naturally discuss together about the movie. But however dont ask her for a sleep over after the movie. Korean girls are VERY VERY conservative. GOOD LUCK!

I know all about K girls but in order to determin what kind of type she is i need some description of her. Tell me what she is like and i can tell you how to approach her.

A 27 years old girl.

She studies Pharmacy. She is going to work on her PHD.

She is the kind of person who does what she wants whatever happens.

She is kind of nice, but I think she uses her pretty face somehow in dealing with people. She has a killing smile.

She is very polite. She is straight.

Tell me what you want to know exactly and I will tell you

use MONEY ~~~

j/k

are you friends??

I don't like using money with people to win them.

haha some of you caught on, that's bad!! :D

btw, what is Samsachun? ????

Samsachun is a fruity type of soju at 12% alcool or so. Here's a funny thing about it: everytime girls joined us to go to the samgyupsal restaurant, they always tried to dilute the soju with the samsachun or the baeksaeju. Or better yet, to drink only the samsachun hehe.

Samsachun is a fruity type of soju at 12% alcool or so. Here's a funny thing about it: everytime girls joined us to go to the samgyupsal restaurant, they always tried to dilute the soju with the samsachun or the baeksaeju. Or better yet, to drink only the samsachun hehe.

It's actually Sansachun, and is a kind of yakju, not soju. Yakju is like wines, and soju is like brandy.

Anyway, I like Sansahun a lot. It's so tasty.

Saifz, plz read my comments very carefully and think twice, no, several times.

I wish you had not told her that you liked her. You already rushed. She said 'no', and some people said 'no' could mean 'yes'. But not really; 'No' is literally 'no' usually.

If she considered that you were a 'man' and said 'no', there is no hope because it means that she already has thought you as a man but you could not show your manliness enough to impress her. However, since you are a lot younger than her, she might have felt that you were like a little brother or simply a boy. That's better than the former. I frankly cannot tell if the former is the case or the latter. But I think the latter is more likely than the former, again, because of your age.

Is she born American?? because I wouldn't really know but if she is Korean exchange student youu really should use money because Korean girls really like money and intelligent man.

They like money and smart guys? Well, that's good to know ;).

Is she born American?? because I wouldn't really know but if she is Korean exchange student youu really should use money because Korean girls really like money and intelligent man.
no no no money is not all that important

yes i have problem too.. but it's just far diffrent from your situation.
a girl likes me.. but i really hate her!! :bash: shit i am really sick of her

I am intellegnt. I study nuclear engineering :D

But what do you mean by money?

like say to her, take 50$ and give me a kiss? lol, don't be crazy guys.


Kyenan.... what you said, is what one teacher who was to korea before said also. And it is what really made me crazy. When she first said that No. I said to myself forget about it. But when I started thinking that there is a yes possible. I am not alive and not dead yet !
I hate this way! .............. I don't know the truth.

And please tell me guys? What is wrong with being a teenager?
What ha??
I think I am smarter than 10 boys in her age. And I am deadly handsome, I don't know if korean girls like arabs.. but I am cool. And that all does not mean anything to me. My heart is the thing I am proud of.

I am intellegnt. I study nuclear engineering :D

But what do you mean by money?

like say to her, take 50$ and give me a kiss? lol, don't be crazy guys.


Kyenan.... what you said, is what one teacher who was to korea before said also. And it is what really made me crazy. When she first said that No. I said to myself forget about it. But when I started thinking that there is a yes possible. I am not alive and not dead yet !
I hate this way! .............. I don't know the truth.

And please tell me guys? What is wrong with being a teenager?
What ha??
I think I am smarter than 10 boys in her age. And I am deadly handsome, I don't know if korean girls like arabs.. but I am cool. And that all does not mean anything to me. My heart is the thing I am proud of.

You're a teenager and you study nuclear engineering?

I am intellegnt. I study nuclear engineering :D

But what do you mean by money?

like say to her, take 50$ and give me a kiss? lol, don't be crazy guys.


Kyenan.... what you said, is what one teacher who was to korea before said also. And it is what really made me crazy. When she first said that No. I said to myself forget about it. But when I started thinking that there is a yes possible. I am not alive and not dead yet !
I hate this way! .............. I don't know the truth.

And please tell me guys? What is wrong with being a teenager?
What ha??
I think I am smarter than 10 boys in her age. And I am deadly handsome, I don't know if korean girls like arabs.. but I am cool. And that all does not mean anything to me. My heart is the thing I am proud of.

then tell her why she hates you.. tell her to receive specific answer.. and you need to improve your weak points.. it's just like studying you know.. if you are weak at something.. you need to improve it to get a perfect mark

You're a teenager and you study nuclear engineering?

yeah man, no body believes that I am 18.

I used to chat with older people on the internet when I was 16. One guy when I told him my age said that I am a lier :bash:

I just can't help it, tryin to look old but no use. Shaving once a month :weirdo:

often smart people dont dress properly, like a nerd, (im not saying you're a nerd)
but if thats the case, well youve got the answer

LOl, so you're 18 and she's 27........ I bet it's not hard to figure why she refused.

I think it depends on what kind of person she is.
Recently for modern Korean girls,No means NO in general IMO.
But I cannot know your situation in detail.


But to say some of my humble opinions,

show your true inside feeling,cooking for her,giving sweet words for her

and theres no particularly good significant tips that only can work to attract Korean girls.

Girls are the same everywhere but should come difference by individual anyways.

Good Luck,mate.

often smart people dont dress properly, like a nerd, (im not saying you're a nerd)
but if thats the case, well youve got the answer


lol, should I put my picture guys :cheers:

I am well dressed. don't worry about it :D

guys I forgot to tell you something. I can't talk to her. Because I had to respect her wishes. She got really angry of that paper that we are no longer friends. I see her everyday but we didn't talk for 6 weeks :(

So, in essence, you are stalking her? No wonder she doesnt like you.

lol, should I put my picture guys :cheers:

I am well dressed. don't worry about it :D
yes, please post a picture of how you dress.. and your face if you want :)

mmm

London (UK) only has a sizeable Korean population in the suburbs of New Malden.
Most of the Koreans in the UK tend to be wealthy and have a strong work ethic

I never get into contact with them as I live in central London and they live in the burbs

what type of job do you eventually want with nukey engineering

So, in essence, you are stalking her? No wonder she doesnt like you.

I am not stalking her my dear. We have classes together...so niether can I run way from her to forget nor she can :runaway:

And somehow she is always anywhere I go :bash: anwhere.. :sleepy:

yes, please post a picture of how you dress.. and your face if you want :)

Do you think I am smart enough to reveal my identity to you :D

I wear what I wear.. Jeans and T-shirts, and I know ho to get them together. I am not a model. But I also do not dress like nerds!!

Is Sunni a korean name? She has Sunny as a nick name. I won't tell you her name for sure.

so, would u post your pic?
(ive imaged you in my head as an arabic fella, just cos of your name)

can I get your email?

^Is that what you asked her?

You can try to tell her your feelings with a portable phone message or with an email ;).

As I was speaking about French music on another thread, you could send her France Gall - Les Sucettes (written by Serge Gainsbourg), it's a cool love song.

where can I find this song?

LOL, I was joking dude. Though she wouldn't get the meaning, it's a porn song.

The funny story about it is the singer, France Gall, didn't know it was a porn song when she sang it (the lyrics are not that obvious). When she understood what it stands for, she went mental at Gainsbourg.

I realised my posts could look serious. Just to be sure you won't make any mistake, don't listen to my advices, I'm just jesting.

You must be stalking her.

1. She strongly told you to leave her alone. Did she tell that to everyone in the class or just you?

2. You are on a forum asking us how to get her even after she tild you to keep away.

Sounds like a stalker to me.

As I was speaking about French music on another thread, you could send her France Gall - Les Sucettes (written by Serge Gainsbourg), it's a cool love song.

Even better would be Fernande by Brassens. Just replace "Fernande" by your lover's name and the success will be guaranteed. Trust me ;)

You must be stalking her.

1. She strongly told you to leave her alone. Did she tell that to everyone in the class or just you?

2. You are on a forum asking us how to get her even after she tild you to keep away.

Sounds like a stalker to me.
if you really like someone, you dont know what to do. you dont have to be a stalker to keep liking her.

Saifz, I suggest you to just forget about her. Reading the posts above, I have concluded, you've just totally messed up the situation. You've too rushed in spite of several disadvantages as follows:

1) You're not from the same culture as hers.

2) You're too young.

For the former, you may already know why it is a disadvantage. You don't really know how to get together with people in Korea and she deosn't know it in the Arabs either.

For the latter, you may not be enough experienced. Being a teenager is not a big deal, if you are mentally and in terms of social experiences grown enough to compete with those who are at her ages. But it seems to me that you may be smart, but not wise enough.

In my opinion, what you should have done is that

first, you had to try to be friendly with her as a friend, giving no single sign that you liked her.

Second, you became friendly enough with her when suggesting her to go movie together was by no means 'unnatural'.

Third, then you had to grab a chance to go out with her. But you should have not shown that this appointment was a date. In other words, you had to completely hide your true feelings about her.

Fourth, you had to try to have other chances with 2~3 weeks of interval between each date. And while meeting her, and in class, just sometimes, you had to show that you could be a man to her. For example, you would have followed the typical manners that men better do when with women: when walking on the streets, you would have walked close to the roads, while she'd have walked close to buildings. This might not have been noticeable at first hands, but at some point, she might have known it.

Also, spending money for her at a proper timing is important. It's not that she loves money, but it shows that you can sacrifice some of yours for her. And many Koreans don't like a person who doesn't know 'how to spend money appropriately'. Hesitating when you had to spend money might have been a big mistake.

And there are couple of more steps to go, but things above are what had to be done in the beginning. Expressing your true feelings about her is something that comes far later. Do you now see how much you rushed?

Saifz are you blackadder?

Saifz, I suggest you to just forget about her. Reading the posts above, I have concluded, you've just totally messed up the situation. You've too rushed in spite of several disadvantages as follows:

1) You're not from the same culture as hers.

2) You're too young.

For the former, you may already know why it is a disadvantage. You don't really know how to get together with people in Korea and she deosn't know it in the Arabs either.

For the latter, you may not be enough experienced. Being a teenager is not a big deal, if you are mentally and in terms of social experiences grown enough to compete with those who are at her ages. But it seems to me that you may be smart, but not wise enough.

In my opinion, what you should have done is that

first, you had to try to be friendly with her as a friend, giving no single sign that you liked her.

Second, you became friendly enough with her when suggesting her to go movie together was by no means 'unnatural'.

Third, then you had to grab a chance to go out with her. But you should have not shown that this appointment was a date. In other words, you had to completely hide your true feelings about her.

Fourth, you had to try to have other chances with 2~3 weeks of interval between each date. And while meeting her, and in class, just sometimes, you had to show that you could be a man to her. For example, you would have followed the typical manners that men better do when with women: when walking on the streets, you would have walked close to the roads, while she'd have walked close to buildings. This might not have been noticeable at first hands, but at some point, she might have known it.

Also, spending money for her at a proper timing is important. It's not that she loves money, but it shows that you can sacrifice some of yours for her. And many Koreans don't like a person who doesn't know 'how to spend money appropriately'. Hesitating when you had to spend money might have been a big mistake.

And there are couple of more steps to go, but things above are what had to be done in the beginning. Expressing your true feelings about her is something that comes far later. Do you now see how much you rushed?

I like what you said. Well, your words seem good to me more than anyother in this thread. Thank you.

Yeah, we Arabs have a proverb: The sword was faster than the blame. What to blame for now! I decided to ask a close friend to ask her to give me a last chance to talk to her once, say my peace. I don't want anything more than to know that she is not angry with me anymore and that she understands what happened. But I am afraid that she would decline or refuse. What do you think I should ask him to say to get her acceptance? :runaway:

Can I get your email?

Saifz are you blackadder?
He isn't but I am. Woof woof

Saifz, I suggest you to just forget about her. Reading the posts above, I have concluded, you've just totally messed up the situation. You've too rushed in spite of several disadvantages as follows:

1) You're not from the same culture as hers.

2) You're too young.

For the former, you may already know why it is a disadvantage. You don't really know how to get together with people in Korea and she deosn't know it in the Arabs either.

For the latter, you may not be enough experienced. Being a teenager is not a big deal, if you are mentally and in terms of social experiences grown enough to compete with those who are at her ages. But it seems to me that you may be smart, but not wise enough.

In my opinion, what you should have done is that

first, you had to try to be friendly with her as a friend, giving no single sign that you liked her.

Second, you became friendly enough with her when suggesting her to go movie together was by no means 'unnatural'.

Third, then you had to grab a chance to go out with her. But you should have not shown that this appointment was a date. In other words, you had to completely hide your true feelings about her.

Fourth, you had to try to have other chances with 2~3 weeks of interval between each date. And while meeting her, and in class, just sometimes, you had to show that you could be a man to her. For example, you would have followed the typical manners that men better do when with women: when walking on the streets, you would have walked close to the roads, while she'd have walked close to buildings. This might not have been noticeable at first hands, but at some point, she might have known it.

Also, spending money for her at a proper timing is important. It's not that she loves money, but it shows that you can sacrifice some of yours for her. And many Koreans don't like a person who doesn't know 'how to spend money appropriately'. Hesitating when you had to spend money might have been a big mistake.

And there are couple of more steps to go, but things above are what had to be done in the beginning. Expressing your true feelings about her is something that comes far later. Do you now see how much you rushed?

Damn you wrote like a 5 page paper there. We should start a date consulting business. That is too good to be free :D

I like what you said. Well, your words seem good to me more than anyother in this thread. Thank you.

Yeah, we Arabs have a proverb: The sword was faster than the blame. What to blame for now! I decided to ask a close friend to ask her to give me a last chance to talk to her once, say my peace. I don't want anything more than to know that she is not angry with me anymore and that she understands what happened. But I am afraid that she would decline or refuse. What do you think I should ask him to say to get her acceptance? :runaway:

Can I get your email?

This forum provides private messaging service. Use it rather than my email. I don't check my email frequently enough, but I come to this site almost everyday.

When you leave me a message, plz be detail. Write what you said before, and when was that, and whether you tried to talk to or telephone or meet her in the meantime, and how frequently you did so.

One better way is to email her. If you don't know her email address, at least write a letter.

Well, I proposed it as a joke.

Emailing is for big nerds IMO.

Damn you wrote like a 5 page paper there. We should start a date consulting business. That is too good to be free :D

Well, he seems to be sincere.

This forum provides private messaging service. Use it rather than my email. I don't check my email frequently enough, but I come to this site almost everyday.

When you leave me a message, plz be detail. Write what you said before, and when was that, and whether you tried to talk to or telephone or meet her in the meantime, and how frequently you did so.

One better way is to email her. If you don't know her email address, at least write a letter.

I got her email. Actually the last connection between us was the email she sent me to say that she is not interested in me. I think she blocked me then. Because I kept on sending her emails then but I got no reply.

My friend let me down:)

He thinks he did it for my good. He started talking to her in an indirect way to open the subject, hey *** are you coming to the serramony in the end of the semester, who do you think will win the best ELI student, and then he started mentioning student names, and then he said to her you know ::::: the arabic boy, guess what she said about me? "" Yeah, that guy talks alot!!, he makes me desparated!!" :lol:

Well, actually I ask alot of questions during class, different than in your culture where students just have to agree with their teacher and listen to him. Anyway my friend could'nt ask her to give me a chance to talk to her, he said he knew that she would refuse at that point. The crazy guy wants to get me her address to go talk to her in her house :eek2:

She will get crazy, I think she might call the police, if she didn't kick me at least!

He thinks that she would listen if I went to her house, well, if it was in our culture, I can't just kick out a guest even if he was Satan. I don't know about yours. But my friend, who is a south american from a Taiwani mother and a HongKongi dad, says that she won't kick me out.. :weirdo:

I don't know... I would look for her house if I was going to ask her to give me more chance.. But putting my self in this big risk just to say goodbye and sorry, it is not worth it!

Dont go to her house without letting her know first. Does she live with her parents? She might feel pretty embarassed. Plus she needs some time to put her make up on.

Emailing is for big nerds IMO.

It is for big nerds. I agee with you.

Dont go to her house without letting her know first. Does she live with her parents? She might feel pretty embarassed. Plus she needs some time to put her make up on.



It is for big nerds. I agee with you.

No. She lives with an american roommate, girl. And this is the kind of girl that is gorgeous without a make up:)

Seriously, I really think you messed up. A high IQ in nuclear engineering wont compensate for a lack of experience with women. I think you simply approached this in a tragically wrong way. I dont think the huge age gap really helps either. I think its time to give up on this and move on. I doubt you will be able so salvage much from this.

Seriously, I really think you messed up. A high IQ in nuclear engineering wont compensate for a lack of experience with women. I think you simply approached this in a tragically wrong way. I dont think the huge age gap really helps either. I think its time to give up on this and move on. I doubt you will be able so salvage much from this.

That's what I mean!!!

Again, you totally messed it up. Give it up and forget about her. I've listed several things that you should've done, none of which is what you can start now. Find another girl, and this is the best advice that I can give you for now. Just keep in mind; next time, don't rush ever!!

Well, rush if you are getting signs she wants you to rush. However, without those signs, if you rush you are just gonna totally turn her off. Simply stated, you failed to read the situation in a tragic way. By now its too late. You really dont have a chance with this girl no matter what you do.

Hoo Guys!

Can you read well please?

I said it is over. I just need to apologize, that's all.

My smart friend missed it up this time also :D

First he asked her about the pictures he sent her by email, class pictures, she said they were fine. Except one, He asked her why? She said, there is someone she dislike :D. He asked her who? She said, can't tell you,. it is private..... Notice Guys, The girl knows that he is my closest friend.. and she would'nt mention this unless she knows that he is telling me and unless she wants me to know that she dislike me. Well, I am happy to know that.. I don't care if she likes me anymore, it is just that I want some respect!!

And then he said something stupid I didn't ask him to!

He asked her for a dinner, she said ok. He said, I will call M** also. She said, noo! I can't come. He said, why? She said I am Busy :D He said why? She said I don't talk to him.

Then he missed it up more, he asked her for her address, she didn't tell him.

Then, he said to her that I told him that I have a problem with her, and he acted as if he does not know what kind of problem, and that I wanted to apologize to her. She said: Umm, well we don't talk anymore.

And thats it .... He really made me crazy! I wanted him to go direct, but he didn't.

The problem is that this South American Chinese fellow is a year younger than me, and that girl has scary eyes that she showes when she wants to, you just can't say something that will make her angry :D

she's 9 years older than you??!! wow, that's courageous...:D
are you sure she's still single??

What a fuckin pimp. This guy is awesome... and he may just get lucky in a situation like this, as I have before many, many times. :cool:

EDIT: Ah, nevermind then, haha...too bad. :bash:

Hey, I'm Arab too, but I'm American also and nobody can usually guess that I'm Arab by just looking at me...so I guess it's different with me.

What a fuckin pimp. This guy is awesome... and he may just get lucky in a situation like this, as I have before many, many times. :cool:

EDIT: Ah, nevermind then, haha...too bad. :bash:

Hey, I'm Arab too, but I'm American also and nobody can usually guess that I'm Arab by just looking at me...so I guess it's different with me.


Hey araboy!

First please don't use slang words, Arabs don't do that!

wow, I guess you are from Sham or Magrib so that people can't tell your origin.

You had that many times, well that is it... we arabs always write love letters :D

I'm Palestinian, actually. I don't like to use slang words, but occasionally one or two slang terms will slip out. :P

Oh, and I never have written a love letter, ever...except maybe in elementary school, hehe.

I don't care if she likes me anymore, it is just that I want some respect!!

Let it go. Forget trying to "get respect", whatever that means, and just cut your contact with her. How will you try and get this respect when she doesnt even want to talk to you?

Saifz, I understand your feelings to apologize her. But you must not. Once you decide to forget her, just forget her. Don't ever try to do something to her. Just stay away from her, leaving no room to contact with her. Making apology can be seen as another attempt to get close to her. Just forget about her. Do nothing.

It is officially over. She refused to listen, and I don't want to talk anymore.

It is really sad to leave a bad impression on people, but what can you do if those people don't have ears to listen?

I just can't see any excuses ... but let's not misjudge. I have my own way, and it is just more than what she desirves. That is why things didn't work out. Really, by time I found out that this is not the kind of lady I want to be stuck with for the rest of my life.

Thank you all guys for your help, and the jokes:D

I will delete this topic soon. I will be visiting you sometimes.

im glad you're over it

sadly, i'm having a similar situation just like u^a korean girl,to the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

Morning, i couldn't eat,because i miss her；Midday, i couldn't eat,because i miss her more；

Evening, i couldn't eat,because i miss her crazily；Night, i couldn't eat,because…… i'm hungray。

sadly, i'm having a similar situation just like u^a korean girl,to the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

Morning, i couldn't eat,because i miss her；Midday, i couldn't eat,because i miss her more；

Evening, i couldn't eat,because i miss her crazily；Night, i couldn't eat,because…… i'm hungray。

sadly, i'm having a similar situation just like u^a korean girl,to the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

Morning, i couldn't eat,because i miss her；Midday, i couldn't eat,because i miss her more；

Evening, i couldn't eat,because i miss her crazily；Night, i couldn't eat,because…… i'm hungray。

LOL, look at my avatar. just kidding