Share the joy. :cheer: Vent some steam. :rant: Unburden your sorrows. :cry:

Post away people! :colgate:

Hey, back to the original maker of this thread. :okay:

mad: ang bagal ng SSC
sad: i still miss home
glad: no class today and im having wine for siesta.

^^ Livin' the good life I see! ;)

mad: hey i already changed connection from my rogers internet cable to the apt's free dsl and it's still slow. :wallbash:

glad: im about to finish the bottle of merlot

Getting tipsy? I have a two drink limit when I drink and that's just once in a blue moon!

^ really? just 2? 2 glasses or 2 bottles? :P or 2 cases of beer? hehe
yea sorta, it got me inspired to reply fully to lili's q in filipino mentality and it took me 4 paragraphs to explain every detail of it. but it just went to SSC bin. grrr.

Really? You did not get to post that exposition of yours? Was it SSC or you are getting woozy with all that red wine. For a student, you ARE living the good life!

^next time. my ie keeps on reloading every page i go to and ssc was slow. if you want some answers to filipino identity and stuff about history, check out the links posted in foro fil. your dreaded hispanophiles and historians are there discussing what went wrong and what can be done, etc.. :) this is not the good life.. im an intl student with nothing much to contribute to family back home, to society im dealing with now. i worry a lot about home, i pray a lot. i try to let time pass with beer. hihihi. and the money i owe my parents is getting bigger by the day, fob stuff.

Yeah, don't put so much luggage in your mind. Enjoy the learning. You will look back with fond memories of all you've seen and done while being a student and a traveller.

I will definitely catch up on my readings in the Foro Filipino. A lot of interesting and vital information in there. I'm saving it for when I have time to imbibe and savor it. Just like your red wine.

And oh, yes, prayer will fortify you.

whats fob stuff?

^ LOL jk. thats just what i hear people use to refer to 'pioneer living', lit. 'fresh off the boeing'. hehe

ang alam ko fresh off the boat, or bagong salta

^ oh thats just the chinese and the pinoy seamen maybe. jk asensado na rin tayo kahit papano. voing.

sad: flu stikes me again. :(

get well soon Ashley!

thanks po. :)

mad: I cant work on my plates coz of this runny nose. It just keep falling down... hehe baka mabasa yung ginagawa ko. :D

Mad- sobrang kulit nung isang broker. naka 50 calls na ata sa akin this afternoon lang.
Glad - lumabas na rin yung documents na inaantay namin in the nick of time.
Sad - we have a meeting tonight and i have to present our balance sheet. all i wanna do is go home and sleep.

thanks po. :)

mad: I cant work on my plates coz of this runny nose. It just keep falling down... hehe baka mabasa yung ginagawa ko. :D

haha! maglagay ka ng bulak sa ilong! :)

:lol: hihi... possible...hmm let me try. :D

^ hehe. works for me. make sure lang walang ibang tao diyan. ;)

well gotta go and trek to a meeting. sigh! at least libre ang dinner...

have fun! good luck... :wave:

sad: flu stikes me again. :(
drink alot of fluid, ash
lalo na yung mainit na kalamansi

thanks kuya tigss... snif. :D ey I PM you. ;)

Get well Ashley...:)

Sad: I miss my friends from High School...:(

^^ yup yup... thanks. :)

No wonder a lot of folks are feeling in the doldrums. Here is an article in the New York Post.

January 24, 2006 -- YOU should feel like hell today - at least according to Dr. Cliff Arnall.

In a report published this month in the magazine Health, the British psychologist deemed Jan. 24 "the most depressing day of the year" due to an array of emotional and stress factors including lack of light, bad weather, increased debt from holiday shopping, the start of tax season and an overall state of self-loathing from broken New Year's resolutions.

People often develop seasonal affective disorder (SAD) earlier in the season, specifically around the winter solstice (Dec. 21) when the days are at their briefest.

But Arnall, a specialist in seasonal disorders at the University of Cardiff, Wales, made the case that midwinter is when the condition is most intense.

"I really do see patients falling apart this time of year, there's a real sinking," says Dr. Kathleen Hall, a stress therapist and author of the book "A Life in Balance."

"For one thing, over 80 percent of Americans overspend during the holidays, and those bills are just starting to come in and cast a shadow. The next issue is the third week in January is when people really start to feel the failure of their resolutions. The first and second weeks, they're still bargaining with themselves. But by week three, they often know that they're not going to overcome addictive habits."

According to Hall, 43 million Americans are currently afflicted by SAD, a disease where melatonin, a sleep-related hormone secreted by the brain, is produced in excess because of an absence of sustained sunlight.

So don't go thinking that New York's unusually warm winter means you won't get SAD. The days - unrelated to the weather - haven't had any more light than on the coldest day. And light is absolutely key to getting a daily dose of melatonin-blocking vitamin D.

Symptoms of SAD include depression, loss of libido, weight gain and compulsive cravings for sugary foods. Treatments often include psychopharmaceuticals for severe cases and light therapy for mild ones.

Whether or not Arnall's theory holds any weight, Hall sees the concept as an exciting opportunity: "There's a lot of shame that surrounds feeling down. By naming a day like this we're bringing up the conversation and allowing people to engage in a dialogue about depression," she says. "Maybe now we can come out of the dark ages, start talking about it and really begin supporting each other."

whatup Lil youre up

BUT HERE'S HOW TO
BEAT THE DOLDRUMS

January 24, 2006 -- Although there are is a wide selection of light-therapy devices available (doctor-recommended equipment can be found at the Web sites cet.org and sphereone.com), and you can always head to a shrink for a good, old-fashioned script, there are other ways to combat seasonal affective disorder. In her book "A Life in Balance," Dr. Kathleen Hall suggests the following :

Serenity

Create moments of peacefulness in your everyday life. Easier said than done, right? Try coming up with a mantra or a soothing, three-word phrase ("I am OK," "Everything is fine"), and then find a quiet place, sit down and repeat it to yourself over and over until a stressful or intensely sad moment has passed. Other ideas include deep breathing, prayer and keeping a journal.

Exercise

Even if you love the gym (yeah, right), take it outside. No matter how cold it is, try to get a few minutes of brisk walking in every day during daylight hours, to increase blood flow and exposure to sunlight.

Love

Make a point to have regular meetings with friends on a weekly basis - plans that don't include work. Sounds simple, but wait: The hard part is you can't cancel.

Food

Food can be healing, nourishing and, most of all, pleasure-inducing. In winter, Hall suggests finding foods that are rich in omega 3 and B6, such as fish, bananas and mangoes. Blueberries have been found to increase neuron reproduction, helping increase alertness.

whatup Lil youre up

Yah, Tee. Still up. Trying to keep people's spirits up. :)

glad: i have a tsinoy classmate sa isa sa mga klase ko
funny thing is, we were talking english for the past three days, then i finally ask him earlier if hes chinese and he said, yes. so i stop there, yet at the end of the class, he asked me if i am filipino. i said hindi. he said, he thought i was a mexican because of my thick beard :lol:

You have thick beard now, @Tee? If your pictures are the ones you first posted (the one without shirt), you can be mistaken for Caucasian, if the later one, the one published on the banner, I doubt you can even grow a beard.

Even more sad: http://www.skyscrapercity.com/showthread.php?t=273315&highlight=Detritus+Uncovered
I know this is late since that thread is dated October, but its only now that im catching up with SSC events. It really saddens me that a fellow moderator has been suffering and battling a brutal disease.

Lili, Canadian news said that the most depressing day was yesterday (23rd).

Span-Tag
barba = balbas
bigote = bigote
patilla = patilya
suave = suwabe

hihihihi ;)

You have thick beard now, @Tee? If your pictures are the ones you first posted (the one without shirt), you can be mistaken for Caucasian, if the later one, the one published on the banner, I doubt you can even grow a beard.
:dunno: just have :(

Even more sad: http://www.skyscrapercity.com/showthread.php?t=273315&highlight=Detritus+Uncovered
I know this is late since that thread is dated October, but its only now that im catching up with SSC events. It really saddens me that a fellow moderator has been suffering and battling a brutal disease.

Lili, Canadian news said that the most depressing day was yesterday (23rd).

That is sad news about @Detritus. I don't know how to react. I will just pray for him. It is a brave thing he is doing revealing himself and letting others know more about cystic fibrosis. I hope that he is not suffering too much.

^^ Hi Lil, how's it going?

Read about detritus... seems like he's a fighter. :okay:

^ really? just 2? 2 glasses or 2 bottles? :P or 2 cases of beer? hehe

:hilarious Two glass limit. :colgate: But I've been dry-as-a-bone for two years now, so maybe the next time I did have a drink I'll be buzzed at the first sip! :lol:

GLAD: I was offered the position that I was eyeing for here in the company.
MAD: My SSC time would most likely diminish as it is a demanding job.
SAD: I might not get to go to NYC for the meet since I will start the new job by mid-February and will be on 90-day probation (means no call-ins or requested time-off).

^^ Congratulations, Kimber!!! :cheers: Glad for you. :)

Pakain ka naman!!! :jk:

congratulations Kuya kimber! :)

^^ Congratulations, Kimber!!! :cheers: Glad for you. :)

Pakain ka naman!!! :jk:

Thanks! Sure, what do you want to eat? :colgate: Burger King has the 99 cent menu. :lol:

congratulations Kuya kimber! :)

Thanks Ashley! For a moment there I thought my chances of getting it was slim since I was the one with the least amount of experience needed for that job. But it saddens me that I'll be leaving my old position, one that I have grown accustomed to for so many years, but change is good and I know I will learn new things, so I say: BRING IT ON! :colgate:

Thanks! Sure, what do you want to eat? :colgate: Burger King has the 99 cent menu. :lol:

:lol: Just had Burger King the other day. (Though we don't have the 99-cent menu here.) I think I'd like to go to TGIF or Chili's, but even KFC would do. :lol:

^^@ Kuya Kimber

You know what, hearing all this promotions and your work related stuff thrilled me to be a working woman someday. You and the others just inspire me. Nakakabilib. :) I just hope I could make it and excel in my chosen profession.

^^ I'm sure you can do it, ashley. ;)

Failing that, you can always depend on your good looks. Madali namang mag-artista sa atin o di kaya maghanap ng MMMM. :rofl: :jk:

:lol: Just had Burger King the other day. (Though we don't have the 99-cent menu here.) I think I'd like to go to TGIF or Chili's, but even KFC would do. :lol:

Friday's or Chili's is okay, but you have to get on a plane and get here for me to treat you! :lol: On second thought, how about vegan? I know this whole-in-the-wall place that serve really good vegetarian/vegan food. :colgate:

^^@ Kuya Kimber

You know what, hearing all this promotions and your work related stuff thrilled me to be a working woman someday. You and the others just inspire me. Nakakabilib. :) I just hope I could make it and excel in my chosen profession.

That's a good attitude to have, I know that you'll have a bright future ahead of you whatever career path you choose. :okay: Do well in school and always be positive even though the situation isn't.

GLAD: I was offered the position that I was eyeing for here in the company.
MAD: My SSC time would most likely diminish as it is a demanding job.
SAD: I might not get to go to NYC for the meet since I will start the new job by mid-February and will be on 90-day probation (means no call-ins or requested time-off).

Congratulations Kimber!!! :cheer:

^^ I'm sure you can do it, ashley. ;)

Failing that, you can always depend on your good looks. Madali namang mag-artista sa atin o di kaya maghanap ng MMMM. :rofl: :jk:

nyahy! artista? hay no way... maraming paraan para mabuhay. I mean the good ways :D

MMMM?? - hindi ba pwedeng Machong Mayamang Masarap Magmahal?? :lol:

Friday's or Chili's is okay, but you have to get on a plane and get here for me to treat you! :lol: On second thought, how about vegan? I know this whole-in-the-wall place that serve really good vegetarian/vegan food. :colgate:

I'm willing to go vegan at least once. Let's see... let me plan my next vacation and make sure to include a stopover in Orlando. :lol:

Congratulations Kimber!!! :cheer:

Thanks Lili! You're one of my role models! :master:

I'm willing to go vegan at least once. Let's see... let me plan my next vacation and make sure to include a stopover in Orlando. :lol:

Drop by any time, with prior notice of course! :lol: I don't think there are direct flights to Orlando from Geneva, right? :dunno:

Thanks Lili! You're one of my role models! :master:

Role Model in SSC chatting/posting instead of working and still getting a promotion? We got to work it, man! We have virtu and fortuna working for us! Thank you to the Supreme Being!! :)

Yehey for Kimber! :cheer: congratulations! although i have to admit that I am a bit sad that you might not make it to our SSC meet! Hmmm....maybe we should postpone it till summer? I mean if more people will be available then. Anyway, wrong thread for that one.
Congrats again!!! :)

Role Model in SSC chatting/posting instead of working and still getting a promotion? We got to work it, man! We have virtu and fortuna working for us! Thank you to the Supreme Being!! :)

Correct indeed! :okay:

Congrats, Kimber:okay: Does this mean you also get a raise?

Yehey for Kimber! :cheer: congratulations! although i have to admit that I am a bit sad that you might not make it to our SSC meet! Hmmm....maybe we should postpone it till summer? I mean if more people will be available then. Anyway, wrong thread for that one.
Congrats again!!! :)

Thanks Chot! You folks don't have to reschedule the meet on my account, I know that some are already dead-set for it in April. I'm sure we'll get to see each other in person someday soon....who knows, mayber sooner than you think. ;)

Congrats, Kimber:okay: Does this mean you also get a raise?

Yes! :cheer:

GLAD: I was offered the position that I was eyeing for here in the company. Congratulations Kimber!!!:cheers1: Yan ang Pinoy!!!:okay: sama ba ako sa blowout? :hehe:

SAD: I might not get to go to NYC for the meet since I will start the new job by mid-February and will be on 90-day probation (means no call-ins or requested time-off). this is sad news, indeed. everybody's excited about the whole thing...i'm excited too. but i'm sure there will be more in the future. :)

^salamat sa pinz :)

congrats kimber :)

Congratulations Kimber!!!:cheers1: Yan ang Pinoy!!!:okay: sama ba ako sa blowout? :hehe: :)
Thanks Dudz! Blowout? Why is it called blowout anyway? :dunno:

this is sad news, indeed. everybody's excited about the whole thing...i'm excited too. but i'm sure there will be more in the future. :
Oh I'm sure that there will more meets in the future, it's just a bummer that I'll be missing the first ever SSC-Philippines US meet!

congrats kimber :)

Thanks Tigs! How's school coming along?

COngratulations, Kimber!

Thanks Tigs! How's school coming along?
fine, thnks for asking :)

Congratulations, Kimber!

Thanks Mike! :colgate:

GLAD: I was offered the position that I was eyeing for here in the company.
MAD: My SSC time would most likely diminish as it is a demanding job.
SAD: I might not get to go to NYC for the meet since I will start the new job by mid-February and will be on 90-day probation (means no call-ins or requested time-off).

congrats kimber!

sobrang busy this week, silip silip lang.

^^ Thanks Paul! I guess I'll be busy soon when I start the new position in February.

Sad - I think I'm about to get a migraine attack again. i can feel it starting. :(

Yes! :cheer:

sweet, ur making your way to the big bucks:D

^^ Not that big really.

congrats @kiretoce!

MAD: damn i spilled my beer on the keyboard and cpu. :gaah:

:( yeah that gota suck think of it being sticky next time

saka bawal na pala mag yosi sa loob ng mga restau at club d2 sa chitown :( not that im a chain smoker but thats what you do over there when you get bored, drink and smoke and drink

^^ I'm not a smoker myself, so I'm always thankful when restos and other public places are non-smoking. Huge difference between in the US and Europe when it comes to smoking... you already notice the difference right at the airports.

congrats @kiretoce!

Thanks Mhe-ann! You're being missed terribly here. :hug:

MAD: damn i spilled my beer on the keyboard and cpu. :gaah:

That means that you're too drunk to even function properly! :lol: :jk: :nocrook:

Im so so so sad right now... I think I need to cry. :(
...naiinis ako. :cry:

^^ Why, ash? Let it all out...

no I dont think you have to know about this. Medyo personal. akala ko talaga nakalimutan ko na. eun na yun. sh*t talaga. :(

^^ Ok, whatever it is, I hope you get through it. And if you need someone to talk to, just holler... ;)

^^ thanks. :( I just dont know what to do right now so thats what makes me really realyy sad.

I am sad! because i have to quit my first job!

^^ Why do you have to quit?

^^ because we were fooled [5 of us will quit]!!! talk about having a good start in your professional life. i just cant elaborate further. damn!

^^ Isn't there some legal action you can do to rectify this? Maybe we need the advice of our dear Mother Lili on this one. ;)

But whatever the outcome Mark, don't lose hope as there is always something bigger and better just around the corner, treat this situation as a blessing in disguise. :)

hello kiretoce.
everytime i see your name, i crave for oranges and salt
yumm

:hi: Hey back Matt! Hmmm....I wonder what my connection to Oranges and salt is? :lol:

Try this out, slice up some grapefruit and dip them in fish sauce (patis). :okay:

^^ Isn't there some legal action you can do to rectify this? Maybe we need the advice of our dear Mother Lili on this one. ;)

But whatever the outcome Mark, don't lose hope as there is always something bigger and better just around the corner, treat this situation as a blessing in disguise. :)

Why did my name crop up on this one? Anyone needing legal counsel or otherwise? I can't opine without knowing the details. I don't even know if I want to.

You may have words of wisdom there Kimber. Maybe it is a blessing in disguise.

^^ Since you're always "doting" on everyone and being "motherly," I figured you have some sage advice to dispense to your young'uns. :lol:

:hi: Hey back Matt! Hmmm....I wonder what my connection to Oranges and salt is? :lol:

Try this out, slice up some grapefruit and dip them in fish sauce (patis). :okay:
orange county FL

hm grapefruit and patis.. i dont think i'd like that hehe.

for me the only thing that should go with patis is lemon, or calamansi.

o shoot now that sounds real good on top of a crispy fried galunggong.

and some white rice.

and sliced yellow pinoy mangoes.

now that tropical orange freeze at red lobster sounds really good...

damn it. im hungreey

^^ Since you're always "doting" on everyone and being "motherly," I figured you have some sage advice to dispense to your young'uns. :lol:

Have I exhibited those traits? I didn't know I was 'maternal'. Sisterly, maybe. Did you know that Mother Superior @WhoseHomepage was banned. Now, she's the motherly one. I cna't imagine someone as sweet as her will be banned in SSC.

crispy fried galunggong? No patis for me. Suka with bagoong or Suka with bawang is fine with me.

I don't know if I should be mad. But I better watch my back here at work. Someone's trying to cover his ass by saying that I held back papers when the paperwork slept with them and did not give it to me until the last minute when I had to go on leave for the Philippines. Imagine the papers slept with them for 3 months and they expect me to churn it out in 3 days? No can do. I don't want to rock the boat here but I will call that person out if push comes to shove. It's no fair.

See? I have my troubles, too. But I fight it out or pray it out.

hello Kimber and Lili! :) there is no day that we do not get to talk about food

yap yap ram.
its like girls or boys - whichever applies - can't live without em

Hi Chot. Sorry for venting. Ok, we can talk food. But that will be in the Pagkain thread.

im going to red wobster! yay.
ill be back in a bit.

you guys better be here still when i get back

I don't know if I should be mad. But I better watch my back here at work. Someone's trying to cover his ass by saying that I held back papers when the paperwork slept with them and did not give it to me until the last minute when I had to go on leave for the Philippines. Imagine the papers slept with them for 3 months and they expect me to churn it out in 3 days? No can do. I don't want to rock the boat here but I will call that person out if push comes to shove. It's no fair.

See? I have my troubles, too. But I fight it out or pray it out.

Yup! that's what I hated at my former work too. That's why I kept records of everything and made people sign whenever I turn info or paper work over to them. that way, I can cover my own ass too.

hope everything works well Lili. If not, pakilala mo samin yang gagong yan when we go to the SSC meet. Kami na ang bahala :) oops! warfreak mode! hehehe

Hi Chot. Sorry for venting. Ok, we can talk food. But that will be in the Pagkain thread.

that's perfectly fine Lili. We're not just here for laughs and giggles, you know? ;)

im going to red wobster! yay.
ill be back in a bit.

you guys better be here still when i get back

can't guarantee that buddy. :) looks like my afternoon will be spent driving around LA. i'm hoping na hinde coz I'm too lazy right now. but things are shaping up that way now.

ikain mo kami sa red lobster!

hi everyone :hi: hey chot, sorry, i didn't see your greeting sa kabila :D

para hindi OT, im glad the sun is up today hihihi!

i'll talk to u guys later:D

MAD - aaaargh! tried to wire money to Phils though Citibank online but they won't let me!!!! aargh!!! western union will be too expensive naman!!

@ty - I noticed your location is Villasis, Pangasinan. Did you go back home?

I should be ok. I have very good track record here. So, in terms of reliability I have my record to show for it. Minsan kasi, I'm just too nice and try not to expose people's incompetence but they end up turning the tables around. Can you imagine, I met with this person to iron out the kinks in the contract and he used up my time talking about his grievances at work and I had a hard time getting that person back on track on our discussion without being rude. He just wasted both our times in that meeting. Then, I had to cut short the meeting since I have another engagement. Tapos, when all is said and done, because he did not discuss with me in details the contract, it couldn't be finalized. I cannot rearrange my timetable on his account. I already gave him my time which he wasted. Now, he's covering up his ass.

Well, glad to know you'll stand up for me though. ;)

Have I exhibited those traits? I didn't know I was 'maternal'. Sisterly, maybe. Did you know that Mother Superior @WhoseHomepage was banned. Now, she's the motherly one. I cna't imagine someone as sweet as her will be banned in SSC.

For real? WhoseHomepage got banned? That's news to me! I wonder what got her into trouble....even the "lofty" ones takes a nosedive I guess.

Well, glad to know you'll stand up for me though. ;)

Sure I will! Basta ba kasama si Kimber (para pwede akong magtago sa likod niya)! :jk: hehehe!

I don't know if I should be mad. But I better watch my back here at work. Someone's trying to cover his ass by saying that I held back papers when the paperwork slept with them and did not give it to me until the last minute when I had to go on leave for the Philippines. Imagine the papers slept with them for 3 months and they expect me to churn it out in 3 days? No can do. I don't want to rock the boat here but I will call that person out if push comes to shove. It's no fair.

See? I have my troubles, too. But I fight it out or pray it out.

Gosh, you are indeed in a pickle! Stick to your guns Lili, tough it out!

Yeah, really got to tough it out here, especially in NY.

hello Kimber and Lili! :) there is no day that we do not get to talk about food

:lol: "Man shall not live by bread alone...."

:lol: "Man shall not live by bread alone...."

how'd you know what i've been eating? all i've been able to eat since yesterday is bread coz my stomach is still pretty sour. :(

Sure I will! Basta ba kasama si Kimber (para pwede akong magtago sa likod niya)! :jk: hehehe!

:hahano: What am I? A human shield? I can be your linebacker if you'll be the quarterback and score a touchdown! ;)

Helloww, Ate Lil, Kuya Chot, Kuya Kimber. :wave:

Tut tut, I woman's got to do, what a woman's got to do. No more knight in shining armor for a damsel in distress.

how'd you know what i've been eating? all i've been able to eat since yesterday is bread coz my stomach is still pretty sour. :(

:lol: Oh how quickly you forget....you mentioned that yesterday/last night, your bout with food poisoning courtesy of the roasted duck you ate.

Helloww, Ate Lil, Kuya Chot, Kuya Kimber. :wave:

Hi Ashley. :)

Helloww, Ate Lil, Kuya Chot, Kuya Kimber. :wave:

:hi: Hey Ashley! Are you an early riser? It's the wee hours of the morning there in the Philippines! Or maybe you haven't gone to bed yet! :nono:

Nope, Im on my way to school right now, my class starts @ 7 so I need to wake up early since I live in Cavite. :)

^^ hello Ashley! Good morning to you! Have a fun day at school! :)

Nope, Im on my way to school right now, my class starts @ 7 so I need to wake up early since I live in Cavite. :)

:eek2: You're on the road right this very minute?

@Ash, magaling ka na? I thought you had the flu

:lol: Oh how quickly you forget....you mentioned that yesterday/last night, your bout with food poisoning courtesy of the roasted duck you ate.


but I don't remember mentioning anything about eating bread. :)

@Ash, magaling ka na? I thought you had the flu

yup.. medyo nawala na siya kahapon ng gabi so ngayon hopefully di na babalik. :D

but I don't remember mentioning anything about eating bread. :)

Maybe my sixth sense is finally kicking in! :lol:

Chot your sig on youth and old age reminds me of a verse in Andrew Marvel's poem "To His Coy Mistress":

Now therefore, while the youthful hew
Sits on thy skin like morning [dew],
And while thy willing Soul transpires
At every pore with instant Fires,
Now let us sport us while we may;
And now, like am'rous birds of prey,
Rather at once our Time devour,
Than languish in his slow-chapt pow'r.
Let us roll all our Strength, and all
Our sweetness, up into one Ball:
And tear our Pleasures with rough strife,
Through the Iron gates of Life.
Thus, though we cannot make our Sun
Stand still, yet we will make him run.

stuffed matt is back

:eek2: You're on the road right this very minute?

yup, hatid lang ako ng dadi ko, Im using my mom's lapatop right now... hehe medyo lowbat nanga so I have to go nadin...

bye bye po to all. :hug: :wave:

stuffed matt is back

Did you bring us back a doggy bag (baon)? :lol:

Bye all. Have to leave early today.

^^ Did you bring a doggy bag (baon)? :lol:
i did. i ordered another orange freeze to go hihihi

yup.. medyo nawala na siya kahapon ng gabi so ngayon hopefully di na babalik. :D

good good. don't tire yourself too much. good thing it's a Friday there already

Bye all. Have to leave early today.

Later Lili! :wave:

Bye bye Lili! welcome back Matty!

Chot your sig on youth and old age reminds me of a verse in Andrew Marvel's poem "To His Coy Mistress":

Now therefore, while the youthful hew
Sits on thy skin like morning [dew],
And while thy willing Soul transpires
At every pore with instant Fires,
Now let us sport us while we may;
And now, like am'rous birds of prey,
Rather at once our Time devour,
Than languish in his slow-chapt pow'r.
Let us roll all our Strength, and all
Our sweetness, up into one Ball:
And tear our Pleasures with rough strife,
Through the Iron gates of Life.
Thus, though we cannot make our Sun
Stand still, yet we will make him run.


I can see why. It's my highschool's school song (at least the first verse). I just translated it based on the little Latin I can remember. Not entirely sure if it's accurate. But most people won't know that now, will they? ;)

glad walang pasok, may pupuntahan daw yung prof
mad namaltos yung paa ko, kanina sa kakatakbo
sad namamaga yung binti ko

@ty - I noticed your location is Villasis, Pangasinan. Did you go back home?

oh no. im still here in SF. nilagay ko lang yan hometown ko hehe!

kuya chot try mo xoom.com :okay: i've used it before ok naman siya.

^magkano ang service charge saka palit sa tin
kunwari satin 52, tapos sa kanila magiging 49 na lang tapos may service fee, pa
u know what im talking about because i hate going all the way to chicago just to send money

glad. SSC is back to speed

^magkano ang service charge saka palit sa tin
kunwari satin 52, tapos sa kanila magiging 49 na lang tapos may service fee, pa
u know what im talking about because i hate going all the way to chicago just to send money

Saan, pag nagpadala ka sa Pilipinas?

GLAD!!!! My youngest bro just got accepted at a consultancy firm in Michigan! Woohoo! May kasama na rin ako dito sa States! Layo nga from me, pero at least closer than Pinas! :) :) :) :) :)

oh no. im still here in SF. nilagay ko lang yan hometown ko hehe!

kuya chot try mo xoom.com :okay: i've used it before ok naman siya.

aba aba aba! pati ba ikaw nakiki-kuya na rin? :)

thanks for the info. I think I've solved the problem na rin.

^^ great news ramm! yey.
o sige treat mo nalang kami hihihihi

congrats sa kapatid mo chot
atleast mabibisita mo na ko :D

tenks tenks guys. sobra talaga akong saya. oo nga tee, medyo malapit nga sayo yun. it's in Farmington Hills, Michigan

Matt, libre? diba tapos na yun? joke! hehe! sure. next time I see you

just kidding man. kelan ang start ng work

Wow!! Extend my congratulations for your brother. :)

They need him here by April at the latest. I have to save up for his plane fare though. Tat actually kinda puts a damper on my plans to go to NYC for the SSC meet. Well, we shall see...

very cool. we should go visit

^^ Congrats on your youngest brother's acceptance to a consulting work in Michigan. What field? Isn't he the batch of Manileno?

Don't sweat it the SSC NY meet can be rescheduled. It doesn't necessarily have to be in NY either.

Wow!! Extend my congratulations for your brother. :)

hehe, thanks! he's still quite nervous and undecided that it might not work out.

^^ Congrats on your youngest brother's acceptance to a consulting work in Michigan. What field? Isn't he the batch of Manileno?

Don't sweat it the SSC NY meet can be rescheduled. It doesn't necessarily have to be in NY either.

thanks lili. yup, ka-batch ni Juan. he is in the IT recruitment field.

ill be back.

^ok Terminator

hehe, thanks! he's still quite nervous and undecided that it might not work out.

I say just grab the chance. Opportunities knock only once. If it doesn'twork out he can always return or shift gears. At least his kuya is in the US to give him moral support.

I say just grab the chance. Opportunities knock only once. If it doesn'twork out he can always return or shift gears. At least his kuya is in the US to give him moral support.

exactly what i'm telling him. i'm chatting with him right now. told him that the worst that can happen is that he can come work for me. didn't seem to keen on the idea! :colgate:

Masarap ba talaga ang buhay niya sa Pinas kaya ayaw ipagpalit? Sabagay walang helpers and family dito. But it's a good opportunity to be truly independent and self-reliant.

Masarap ba talaga ang buhay niya sa Pinas kaya ayaw ipagpalit? Sabagay walang helpers and family dito. But it's a good opportunity to be truly independent and self-reliant.

it's not that. we were never dependent on our helpers. we were brought up that way. plus he lives alone in an apartment in makati and has no maid. he's just worried if this is really the best thing for him. he really wants a career in the HR field. Naninigurado lang. and of course, he will miss my family and his friends as well. that was the issue with me when I decided to leave too

ano yung HR field

@Matt - Human REsources

ah okie.
how old is your bro?

IT-recruiting is an adjunct of the HR field so it will not be such a departure. He can expand his role later on. It's just important to gain a foothold first.

@ Matt - he's 23. here's his pic

he's the one in the middle. the other two are my bros too. pero two years ago pa tung pic na to

http://photos.friendster.com/photos/97/49/939479/12284461214923l.jpg

^^ That was the award-winning photo of the Ramvingar Brothers.

@ Lili - yup! I guess he's just afraid about taking that first step. he's still young. that's why. he'll soon learn that sometimes one has to take risks and that nothing in life is a sureshot.

I'm still on that learning curve.

ram he looks like you

magugulat nanaman si Juan sa pic na yan. hehe!

@ Matt - yeah. but he's the shorter, buffed version. he's also the smartest and most driven one in the family. extremely good soccer player pa. hehe! ok i gotta stop. i'm a proud older bro, can you tell?

you all have dimples.
man i'd kill for dimples, well that and for extra height :lol:

^i wanna be at least 5'10" :)

you all have dimples.
man i'd kill for dimples, well that and for extra height :lol:

matt, i thought u had dimples, no? ano bang height mo? ako, im satisfied with my height, i just need to gain weight LOL!

chot congrats sa kapatid mo. hayan wala nang kuya hehe! :D

<-- walang dimples :ohno:

<-- may dimple sa pwet, dawala

salamat Ty!

magpapaalam na ako mga kapatid. have to get ready for bed na. gnyt ya'll and take care!

ako rin walang dimples. nung bata ako akala ko kaya merong dimples ang tao kasi kinukurot ng nanay yung pisngi LOL!

sleep tight, chotzki!

good night ram. :)

matulog na mahigpit, chot

Good morning to anyone who's up and awake!

Hey Chot, now I'm confused....that photo of your brothers, you're not in it? If so, then there are four of you guys? All this time I thought there was only three. :lol: BTW, congratulations to your brother for landing a job here in the US! It'll be tough the first few months but it gets easier once he gets into the rhythm of things. :okay:

^^ morning po. :D

^^ Good evening to you Ashley there in the Philippines. Don't "po" me please, it makes me geriatric! :lol: Looks like you're the only one up and about here on SSC.

good morning ash, kimber.

glad i woke up early. i got time to chill before goin to school.

@ kimber

oops... sowrree. :) I just got back from school, so ayun iniwan nako nung ibang members.

HI Juan... (tama diba?)... hehe.

GLAD... my bro just won the Siemens National Competition today!!! :cheer:

... and he got something for me this comming sunday for my birthday!! :cheer: :cheer:

@Ash.. yep. hihi.. you can call me Juan or Jon (like tocayo tigi). pwede rin Jonathan, Jan, Jun(the bisayas call me jun) LOL (people call me different names pero majority call me Juan.. and Jon here sa puti. hihi

^^ I like juan better! cute nga eh... mas unique para sakin. kasi yung ibang tao pinipilit nilang gawing 'americanize' ang pangalan nila... :D

^Hahaha!! kase sinasabi nila bantut daw.. at sobrang pinoy AND since nasa US ka na (canada in my case), we shall baptize you John. eheehehe. jk pero some people call me Jon talaga. (Dyon) hehehe!

MAD: bumagal na naman ang SSCng hinirang!

^^ hahahah I agree

Happy: Birthday of my sista! hahahha so we get to eat take out lol

Mad and Embarrassed: ang t*nga t*nga ko talaga! sa gitna ng quiz tinanong ko yun teacher kung bakit negative yun answer sa test eh tamang tama naman yun computation, yun pala pwede pala negative ang sagot dun sa Spearman's test...crud!!!! *knocks myself on the wall*, di ko kasi masyadong nabasa yun book eh....at ang epal/yabang ko kasi eh.....grrrrrrrr tama siguro mga sabi sabi na "feeling" ako sobra....lol

another thing, I feel like I'm getting dumber and I need to maintain my grades...darn it...
[end rant]

good morning ash, kimber.

glad i woke up early. i got time to chill before goin to school.

Good morning Juan! What's up? :wave:

^ey kimber! im doin good, just taking the usual rest and stretching before going to school, while listening to vhong navarro's totoy bibo song, its refreshing :lol: how's work? i heard(read) you were promoted. congrats!! where do you work again? what kind of company?

^^ Yeah, you can all it a promotion, but hardly management status. I work for Seminole Community Mental Health Center, in their IT Dept. The new position I'll be moving into will be in HR. Speaking of work, I plan on ducking out later at 1:00pm and will call it a day, that's why I'm being lazy and just twirling my thumbs waiting for SSC to reload every time a visit a different thread, and not really doing any work (there isn't that much on my desk and In Box anyway). :lol:

magugulat nanaman si Juan sa pic na yan. hehe!

haha baka sa kakapost mo ng foto may panibagong SR forumer na susulpot. :)
diba na nagagalit sa yo si miguel sa ginagawa mong yan? Hahahahahahaha! oi have you asked him anythin about me? wag na. wag ka na!! :lol: i remember your other bro too. he's i think 2 years ahead of our batch. well congrats to miguel and yea, why dont you accompany him to michigan, settle in east coast instead, 5 hours closer to europe. :)

^^ I like juan better! cute nga eh... mas unique para sakin. kasi yung ibang tao pinipilit nilang gawing 'americanize' ang pangalan nila... :D
e kung itagalog yung english na pangalan ok lang sayo?

hehe.. oo naman. bakit hinde. :D

ikaw ba yung nagpost ng english names translated in filipino nun sa isang thread??

Good mawnin everybody! :colgate:

@Kimber - Thanks. Yeah there are four of us. Apparently my parents wanted to make different clone versions from the same genetic pool. :colgate:

@Juan - Hehe! Di naman niya alam e. No, I didn't try to ask him about you anymore. He wanted to see your pic though so he would remember. Sabi ko later nalang. hehe!

@Ash - I'll greet you an advanced Happy Birthday now in case we don't get to see each other online again. Have a great one! :)

Gotta run to the bank muna guys. Catch you again in a bit!

hehe.. oo naman. bakit hinde. :D

ikaw ba yung nagpost ng english names translated in filipino nun sa isang thread??
ako nga po yun.
bakit po, nakapagdulot po ba ng kahit katiting na kasiyahan at kulay sa iyong araw?
iyon po bay nakapaglapat ng munting ngiti sa inyong mga labi na nananalagi sa malasutlang kariktan ng inyong mukha?

nagtatanong lamang po ako dahil isinatagalog ko ang aking pangalan

^^ Ginoong Matteo Jaime, nagdilang makata ka. Kung inyong mamarapatin, harana na lang upang lalong mahumaling ang puso ng ating kahali-halinang dilag na si Binibining Ashleya

Ang lakas ng dugo ng Garcias. Different versions of chinky eye- bedimpled combinations! :)

Sus! ang bagal mag-load. Lunch muna ako.

manong ram, ingat po sa pagmamaneho.

kami po'y magaantala sa inyong pagbabalik

@Kimber - Thanks. Yeah there are four of us. Apparently my parents wanted to make different clone versions from the same genetic pool. :colgate:


Must be nice to have brothers, my parents were too stingy, they only decided on two, one of each specimen (XX and XY)! :lol:

Ginoong Matteo,

saiyong munting mungkahing ipinarating sa iyong lingkod ay nagbigay ng humaling at ngiti sa aking mukha. Nagagalak ako't sa gabing ito'y may nagpahalakhak at nagpagising sa aking malungkot na araw.

nagagalak Hulyana (Unang pangalan ko - JOAN)

Ang lakas ng dugo ng Garcias. Different version of chinky eye- bedimpled combinations! :)
i went to school with a James Garcia nung elementary. He's also singkit and he's got dimples on both cheeks. (face)
he now lives in south cali. hmmmmmm baka relative pa ni ram

^no don't think so. don't have Garcia relatives here. They're all on my mom's side

^^ maraming garcia. may pinsan ako garcia from batangas yata yun.

meron akong kilalang garcia, nagtitinda ng elotes dito sa chicago meron din chicarones, manga, at binubudburan nya itong maanghang na pulang powder, tinutulak nya nga lang yung tindahan nya

^marami talagang garcia. for some reason, pag nagnanak ang mga garcia, panay lalaki. almost all the garcias i know are guys. on my dad's side, most of my cousins are male. and those with kids have sons. tapos as you know we are all male in my family. paano naman di dadami ang Garcia, e panay lalaki kung mag-anak. :colgate: i'm almost certain that all my future kids will be male.

si eddie, garcia din sya

si eddie, garcia din sya

at marami rin syang anak di ba? hehe

tama.

glad:
my friend bought himself an iPod and i used my expired student id so he can get a discount at the mac store, and i got away with it heheeh
mad:
very much sleep deprived
sad:
my ipod mini is starting to get obsolete

^that happened to me when my relatives and i went to sea world and busch garden sa orlando, i used my expired ID tapos, nakalibre pa ko ng dalwa, they didnt even look at the expiration :lol: NAKALUSOt, pero kinabahan rin ako dun ah

^that happened to me when my relatives and i went to sea world and busch garden sa orlando, i used my expired ID tapos, nakalibre pa ko ng dalwa, they didnt even look at the expiration :lol: NAKALUSOt, pero kinabahan rin ako dun ah
hehehe true. pinawisan din ako kasi di nya mahanap yung school code dun sa list nila at hiningan pa akong drivers license. whew!

ye u can use those in theater too,

hmm. sad, medyo.

Allow me to use this as a place to vent off some steam to some not-so-strangers. ;) I don't know where else to go right now since all my good friends have their own huge problems as well and I don't want them to worry about me when they have bigger stuff to worry about.

I don't know it seems like when things are crappy, things just all happen simultaneously. Anyway, a little bit of career angst. I'm kind of getting fed up with departmental politics at my uni and I'm questioning whether I really want to get into academia after spending the past 10 years of my life trying to do it. But then, what is there besides this for me? I've been so far removed from the job market that I feel I have no other marketable skills other than teaching and I just feel tired of it. I used to be a computer programmer but my technological expertise is circa 1996. And I don't really want to go back to computers anyway. I feel a need to take a break... But I feel that in any job I do, I'll be competing with the best college graduates 10 years younger than me.

And then on top of this, some personal stuff. I still really haven't gotten over my ex-gf. I guess I have but I just can't stand it when I'm watching relationships change their nature, aware of it, but not being able to do anything about it. We've been just very good friends-- best friends even since we've split up when she decided to move back to New York, and we used to call each other every night or every other night. But I feel that now, 6 months after, she's already starting to have a life and meeting new people, and I feel that she needs me a lot less now than she used to. And I'm just here, not even meeting new people (trust me SSC has nothing to do with it because I still party and still go to the bars-- I still have a social life, just not with anybody new. What happens when you hang out with a lot of lesbians is that all the new people you meet turn out to also be lesbians haha.). And with all my problems, I feel I need her as a friend more than she cares to acknowledge me because of the newness of a big city with interesting people.

Anyway, whatever.... I'm opening myself up a lot. But oh well, this is pathetic. Thanks for indulging me.

^that is sad, i feel you man. wont you look for your significant one back in NY?
but i like the part when you said: beleive you, it wasnt because of SSC :D

aw Mike. I wish I could say something to make you feel better but I know I can't. Just know that you can feel free to vent here anytime you want. sometimes it helps to jut let it all out. I do hope you feel better soon though.

Eto payong kapatid. Maybe you all need girlfriends. Then, you will be inspired and all things will feel like new to you, again. You will be revived and recharged.

I wish you all find your special someones! :)

Thanks for letting me vent. I don't know.. I just feel like I'm stuck in a rut right now-- midlife crisis before midlife happens. I missed the roaring twenties because I was stuck behind a book haha.

We have our moments.

Maybe that's it Mike. Maybe you have to force yourself to get out some more and do other stuff. I don't know, but that's what I've been trying to do. I suppose you remember me venting a couple of months ago too. I'm not saying to cast everything to the four winds and say to heck with everything. But maybe trying to see the good things you have at the moment like family or friends might help cheer you up! :) As I said, that's what I've been doing lately and seems to be working. I do not know for how long but the important thing is, I'm out of the rut I was in. Hope that helps :)

Ok, I got my green light on. I'm all ears. I'm there for you, man. ;)

^ilan pala hikaw sa ears na sinasabi mo Lil

Thanks Chot--that gives me hope. :)

I mean this isn't about not having a gf. I was fine with that. That part was just about my ex, who has become just a great friend (a relationship I appreciate), no longer needing me as a friend as much as I need her as a friend. But that's just a silly part.

It's the career thing that scares me more. I'm feeling like I just want to stop at the masters and no longer the Ph.D. because I'm so sick of my department. I feel like I've been working for the wrong academic program. But even if I found a new program, I feel like I've just had it with the world of academia and I don't have the desire to fight the politics (publish or perish, kiss up to the right asses, etc). I love what I'm studying, but the administrative stuff is just annoying. The things is, with my Masters, I don't even know what to do because I really don't think I'm marketable since my specialty is so specific that I don't know what I'd do with it unless I stayed in academia.

^^ Focus on your goals.

Oh, I get you. Youre feeling lost. Well, youre not alone. I don't know either where I am heading too. Since I just started, its harder to steer the sail for me I guess....

Sorry, I don't want to sound simplistic. But these things happen, we sometimes find ourselves in a rut because either things are not going our way, ennui, lack of focus, loneliness, depression, anxiety, struggles, etc. We just sometimes need to be able to ride these occasional bumps, reassess our situations, look within, look without, look at our end-goal and proceed. It helps to share so that you can have perspective of things. Our opinions may not be necessarily on cue but it will help you arrive at your own solutions to your dilemma.

^^ true lili, life is like a box of chocolates- you will never know what you'll get. Thats okay, thanks for the advise.

baka kailangan lang ng action ni boybaha ;)

Hahaha. You don't know-- I meant there's lots of girl on girl going on here. I never told you what my role in the hole thing was... ;)

(jk)

^I guess it's true that everyone gets into a rut. I'd actually be worried if I or other people didn't. I suppose it stems from a desire for self-improvement, a refusal to let things stay the way they are. Or a yearning to make our lives worthwile. Like Lili, I do not want to sound simplistic but that is the way I feel. I am not saying also that people who do not feel anxious about their present or future state are in anyway less ambitious or concerned as those who do. I guess what I'm trying to say Mike is in a way, it is a good thing you are feeling this way because it is a sign that you refuse to simply accept things the way they are. That you have other hopes and aspirations other than ones you have or may have had. As to what those hopes are and how you will achieve them, I am not sure we can help out. For though it may sound cliche, only you can really figure that out. That is the truth for all of us. But rest assured that you can find all the support and encouragement that you need right here with us. We are all rooting for you. :)

Goals, Generosity, and God
Here's a simple technique to raise your goals to a more spiritual level.

By Dawn Groves

Excerpted from "Stress Reduction for Busy People"

Modern life can be deeply stressful and confusing because of its complexity. Like a maze with too many directions, life fosters anxiety because it is difficult to know which way to go. You can navigate the labyrinth by embracing two big “G” words: Goals and God.

Goals help you define your direction, gather your energy, and cut through a dizzying amount of distraction. They relieve stress because they provide a conduit for wholesome, positive action.

Inaction fuels helplessness, generating the worst kinds of stressful states of mind: desperation and despondency. We become trapped in habit patterns of negative thinking, blind to opportunities, victimized by powerlessness. Setting goals helps reverse these conditions. By defining targets and taking small, consistent steps toward them, we clear a path through the complexity. Instead of being stuck, we become empowered.Of course there is much more to life than setting and achieving goals. Life can be shallow and self-centered if it lacks an expansive connection to the infinite creative presence known as God (Goddess, Brahma, Buddha nature, Christ consciousness, Allah, Life, Being, Spirit). When we unite ourselves with a loving, inclusive God, we are lit from within. We no longer feel driven to define ourselves by approval or results. We build a consciousness that can move with equanimity through frustration, fear, and pain.

When goals become partnered with awakening to God, it yields a process I call “spiritual goal-setting.” Spiritual goal-setting is a tool for much more than simple acquisition of things and management of life’s confusion. When goal-setting is spiritualized, results are not the main focus; it is the process we care about. Through the process, we grow, learn, and awaken. The goal itself is merely icing on the cake.

How to Set Spiritual Goals
The Buddha talked about the importance of cultivating four states of mind: equanimity, loving-kindness, compassion, and joy in others’ successes—states collectively known as the “heavenly abodes.” The more they arise, the more happiness we experience. Stress has no room to take root. Spiritual goal-setting provides a wonderful opportunity for cultivating the heavenly abodes. How? The answer is simple: through generosity. The driving energy behind spiritual goal-setting is generosity. As you’ll read below, every goal is extended into a generous action. The Buddha says that, in a single act of generosity, all four heavenly abodes are experienced equally.

Now to the specifics:

Declare Your Goal
Goals must be measurable. Make your goal as specific as possible so that you’ll know when it is achieved. It should also have an end date or condition. Educator and businesswoman Chellie Campbell, author of The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction, defines a goal as a dream with a deadline. Here are a few simple examples:

Submit my book manuscript to publishers until a contract is offered and accepted.
Finish my yearly status report at the office by the end of this month.
Ride my first century (100-mile) bike ride by September 1 of next year.
Reorganize the garage (floor cleaned, tools stored, workbench built, excess donated) by Labor Day.
Practice at least twenty minutes of daily meditation for the next thirty days.

Define Your Act of Generosity
This is where you extend your goal into an act of generosity. Some goals are naturally noble; others need to be expanded a bit. Find a way to serve others with the goal you have set for yourself. Here are a few examples:

Once I receive my book contract, I’ll donate at least 10 percent of my advance to the local animal shelter.
Once I finish my status report, I’ll take my spouse out for a special dinner.
After my first century bike ride, I’ll contact my neighborhood association to organize a ride for the kids.
After the garage is reorganized, I will host a “thanks for the help” party for my kids and their friends. I’ll also surprise them with a special storage cubby for their book bags and coats.
After one month of daily meditation, I’ll volunteer a full day of service to my church in celebration of my commitment to practice.

By extending your goal into charitable action, you fuel your enthusiasm for achieving it. Each act of charity brings you happiness in three ways: the pleasure of the planning, the joy of actually doing it, and the warmth of the memory. Generosity is a delight and a relief. It is the ultimate stress reducer. Through generosity, the uptight, demanding energy we sometimes bring to our projects is either expelled or never really has a chance to develop.

My friend Bob complained about this step. “Why should I extend my goal into a generous action? I already put in a million work hours to support my family. My whole life is a generous action!”

Let me clarify: The idea is to include generosity as part of your goal; it doesn’t have to be a staggering effort. Make the extension something you will enjoy or care about doing. For example, if Bob decides that he is going to submit his taxes on time this year, he could extend his goal into a special trip to the park with his children.

Like Bob, you may be burdened with “daily grind” responsibilities that feel emotionally and spiritually empty. You’re probably careful not to squander what little energy you have left at the end of the day, but energy and happiness grow from sharing, not hoarding—from emptying your cup so that it may be filled again. This is accomplished by acts of conscious, open-handed generosity. It may be challenging to get started, but no lesson is more important to learn....

A final word about this process: Always include quiet time for meditation or prayer. Try starting and ending your day with a spiritual practice. It will help transform a potentially self-centered effort into an open-hearted, creative sharing of universal abundance.

Excerpted from STRESS REDUCTION FOR BUSY PEOPLE: Finding Peace in an Anxious World (New World Library) by Dawn Groves. (c) 2004 Dawn Groves. Used with permission.

yeah im rooting for you boybaha, like how newtex commercial say it:

binata ka na hindi na bata
madaming pagbabago
nakakapanibago......nakakapanibago
mag newtex....refresh refresh nanananana

Thank you again, Chot.

I think there's a bit of disappointment because I've been toiling so much at this for a long time and of course, it's not all wasted because I have specialized, but there is still a sense that I'm just not getting where I wanted to get when I first got into this and that makes me feel like the time and efforts are wasted. But like you said, the answer is in me. I'm grateful that I have you guys to corroborate this because sometimes, just feeling like it's me makes it feel like it's me against the world.

You'll hear graduate students talk about their work as if it's their significant other-- we are married to our work in that way. In my case, I still want to be with my work, except the passion is just not there. And when I take classes and work with other people who are not in my department right now, I feel like there's excitement and passion. My work in other scenarios feels fresh and fun. Stuck in the present institution though, I feel that the life is not there and the passion is lost. I love my work, except I need to find a way to make the spark happen again.

As to your friendship with your ex-, just bless her and wish her well on her path. Sometimes, we have to let go. At least, you are still friends.

Good night, good day all. :)

Maybe you just need a break, Mike? Some time off? To try and do other stuff and explore other possibilities? Will they allow you to take a hiatus? Maybe doing something like just working as a barista at Starbucks for a couple of months might do the trick. Basta something different from what you are doing. :colgate:

^im doing the same pero i have to pay 600 bucks for the class :(

^ Yeah I tried that barista at a coffee shop the last time I had a major crisis of career when I quit computers to to go back to school. I certainly need a break. I do need to find something different to do, though, in order to afford my time off. At any rate, I am talking to advisors within my department to see what I can do with my work, to inject life into it again.

@lili, yes there is a spiritual center to my days. I do believe that in the end, a lot of this is about a relationship between ourselves and the world around us and our spirituality is a rudder that keeps us all directed and steers us through our chaos.

hmm. boybaha's story reminded of of a similar, well maybe not, experience that i went through. but i thought i'd share too since you guys are cool.

it just reminded me of the time when i just graduated from school and i didn't know what lies ahead, or what was in store for me. those were the times where i was scared the most and it seems like there was no direction at all. it was more like an "ok i'm done with school, now what?' type thing.
but God had plans for me and i just let him work in my life, just trusting that His will be done. and everything just started falling into place, piece by piece. it was amazing. i don't wanna sound religious or spiritual or anything, just thought i'd share cause it did make a diffrence in how i see some things now than before.

hope i didn't offend anybody :)

Eto payong kapatid. Maybe you all need girlfriends. Then, you will be inspired and all things will feel like new to you, again. You will be revived and recharged.

I wish you all find your special someones! :)

Ouch!!! :lol: Ikaw ba, me special someone ka na? ;)

Boyb, our situations are not exactly the same, but I think I understand what you're going through (maybe). In my case, sometimes I also get so tired of what I'm doing and of living my life in Geneva, it's a relief to know that I'm not alone in feeling this way. (I guess misery really does love company.) I live a fairly comfortable life and have a relatively cushy job, but something is still missing... but I guess it's just in Man's nature not to be content and to always seek out something new, challenging or exciting. Don't know... maybe I'm just speaking for myself, or maybe I'm talking out of my a** here... just my 2 cents.

On a lighter note ----

Glad: My new computer has finally arrived.
Mad: Took last friday off (played hooky, shhhhh ;) ) to wait for the computer bec. UPS couldn't give me a specific delivery time (just between 9am and 6pm, duh!!!) but the guy came at 6:45pm anyway, so I didn't actually have to take the day off!!!
Sad: My DSL line won't be ready until next week as the service provider apparently ran out of available ports. We'll see next week...

hmm. sad, medyo.

Allow me to use this as a place to vent off some steam to some not-so-strangers. ;) I don't know where else to go right now since all my good friends have their own huge problems as well and I don't want them to worry about me when they have bigger stuff to worry about.

I don't know it seems like when things are crappy, things just all happen simultaneously. Anyway, a little bit of career angst. I'm kind of getting fed up with departmental politics at my uni and I'm questioning whether I really want to get into academia after spending the past 10 years of my life trying to do it. But then, what is there besides this for me? I've been so far removed from the job market that I feel I have no other marketable skills other than teaching and I just feel tired of it. I used to be a computer programmer but my technological expertise is circa 1996. And I don't really want to go back to computers anyway. I feel a need to take a break... But I feel that in any job I do, I'll be competing with the best college graduates 10 years younger than me.

And then on top of this, some personal stuff. I still really haven't gotten over my ex-gf. I guess I have but I just can't stand it when I'm watching relationships change their nature, aware of it, but not being able to do anything about it. We've been just very good friends-- best friends even since we've split up when she decided to move back to New York, and we used to call each other every night or every other night. But I feel that now, 6 months after, she's already starting to have a life and meeting new people, and I feel that she needs me a lot less now than she used to. And I'm just here, not even meeting new people (trust me SSC has nothing to do with it because I still party and still go to the bars-- I still have a social life, just not with anybody new. What happens when you hang out with a lot of lesbians is that all the new people you meet turn out to also be lesbians haha.). And with all my problems, I feel I need her as a friend more than she cares to acknowledge me because of the newness of a big city with interesting people.

Anyway, whatever.... I'm opening myself up a lot. But oh well, this is pathetic. Thanks for indulging me.

i hope things turn out well for you in 2006 i read this and i can relate to some things you said.....i remember when i was still new to these forums and i had a big problem and i let it out in these forum ( yung dating job issue ko na naka stress sakin that i ended up quiting which was so risky but i did it anyway)....actually it help me a bit....its better to let it out than let it build up diba?....Mike btw have to tried to meet new people in a different atmosphere?...u dont seem to be visiting SSC as much as you use too...

me when i feel so depressed i play my guoitar and it inspires me to to compositions...

i had a painful experience sa ex ko na kaibigan pa rin ng mga ibang ka friends ko...(i was able to write a song tapus tnugtog namin ng mga kabanda ko...taglish nga lang) :) ...anyway hope you feel better

glad ako kagabi dahil nanalo si federrer. :D

sad ako kanina kc...wala lang. tapos nun nabasa ko un ke lolo mike, naisip kong mas fortunate pa ako kahit paano...

hmm..lolo mike, wag ka ng sad. di ako magaling na adviser kaya wala akong masabi kundi hamo na un ex-gf mo, meet other people, or focus ka naman sa ibang bagay. kaya mo yan. :)

glad ako kagabi dahil nanalo si federrer. :D

ako sad kagabi kasi nanalo si federer :jk:

GLAD-kasi lilipat na kami ng office sa Insular Life sa Ayala Ave.
SAD-kasi di pa ako makahanap ng new job na pampalit sa current job ko.
SAD-kasi di pa ako makahanap ng new pad.
MAD-kasi nakipag-break ako and we decided to be friends pero nagseselos pa rin ako pag may kasama syang iba.
GLAD MAD SAD-kasi feeling ko nababaliw na ako kasi di ko alam kung ano ang gusto kong mangyari sa buhay ko.

^^ Ah pareho tayo, di ko rin alam kung ano gusto kong mangyari sa buhay. Ewan ko ba...

Nabubuset na rin ako rito sa trabaho... daming ka-ek-ekan. Hay nako!!! Arrrrgggghhhh... dapat tumama na ako sa lotto.

@boybaha--hang in there! I hate to make things more complicated or offend anyone in here, but life isn't always guaranteed to improve with that post-grad degree. Although it does provide an asset that may prove beneficial at some point, by remaining in your area of specialization, you must truly believe that it will be the career where you can feel happy. I wonder how many of us just work to primarily pay the bills--I mean, a job has to have some redeeming qualities where you can feel productive and find some sense of reward in what you do.

Anyway, to all those forumers who came to the aid of boybaha, you each deserve multiple dosages of Godiva chocolates basking in a heap of Cold Stone Mountain French vanilla ice cream--what true friends you are indeed! This is one unique blog where a sense of family or security has obviously developed among some forumers. Way to go!! :grouphug:

^^ Uy sarap, Cold Stone ice cream with Godiva chocolate!!!

You're absolutely right on the job thingy... I absolutely envy people who really like what they're doing, though it doesn't pay much (though, of course, it would be better if it did, hehe). My current job pays well, but I can't say that I'm fully satisfied. I guess it's up to each of us to find the 'balance' that would keep us happy.

asan na penge?...hehehe....anyway wag na so sad pipol......nag eemote din tuloy ako...mejo depress din me lately

Ano ba 'yun?! Ba't nga ba tayo malungkot?! Must be the weather...

Anyway, Happy Chinese New Year!!!

恭喜发财 [gong xi fa cai]

Phew! I was gone the weekend and all this drama transpired! Well Mike (and the rest reading), I know it sounds cliche, but "This too shall pass." :2cents: There you have it, my own two cents on the topic, it may not be much right now but it appreciates in value as time pass by and you're far removed from the situation you're currently in. :colgate:

BTW, feeling GLAD because two classmates of mine from high school in the Philippines (but are currently living here in the US for some time now) paid me a surprised visit over the weekend! I'm still feeling high from a totally unplanned, unexpected and unscripted fun weekend.